One of the things that I love to do is to read Style blogs. My favorite is written by a girl named Jessica Schroeder. I was reading a couple of her latest entries when I found this one about intentions and the power of thinking positively.
She mentions journaling about her blessings and how writing them down has somehow helped the Universe to unit her with her intentions. Those are my words, not hers. I like to talk about the Universe sometimes. It’s huge. And infinite. Two things that I appreciate about it.
Schroeder says……
Once I wrote down I wanted to be in Lucky Magazine (it happened!). Another time I listed a bunch of things I was looking for in a partner (I found him). Only after making these intentions and believing that I deserve them and they can come true do they appear in my life…Where there’s a will, there’s a way. You don’t have to know what the path looks like, but if you see the end result, you can achieve it!!
The list. When I first felt myself becoming attracted to my boyfriend, I thought that he fit my list. I was especially attracted to his interest in reading. I thought we’d talk books and that idea intrigued me. We’ve never talked books. He gave me a book to read once. Here, read this, he said. I know he was reading a book when he visited, someone on Germany around the time of World War II. That’s it.
I think I need to make a new list. I think he could use a new list, as well. I’m pretty sure that I do not fit him either. Sometimes when I talk to my friend, my friend who has known him even longer than I have, about him she is annoyed with the way that he treats me. In truth I think he means well, but we are very different. We interact with people differently. We want to live different lives.
Sometimes people think that the idea of a list is ridiculous, but I disagree. How are you going to recognize what you want unless you know what that is? There’s also the idea that it means you are too picky. Too picky? I wish I had been a bit pickier a few times in the past. It would have saved me and my partner for a lot of heartache.
Do you have a list? What qualities do you want your partner to possess? Here are a few things from my list:
My Ideal Man Will….
*Have a good sense of humor, bordering on the dorky side.
*Be tall and solid.
*Enjoy outdoor activities like hiking, biking, or running.
*Have an appreciation for small town or country living.
*Already be a parent.
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During one argument he said, “What is it with you? Do you expect me to come every other month or something?” Well, yeah, I did. I offered to share travel costs (too expensive for me to travel there with my kids). He said I was pushing and he did not want to talk about visits anymore. I stopped asking when I was going to see him again.
