Tales of Single Moms In Their Quest To Find Love
I just put a new online profile up. I’ll let you know how it goes.
So far, I’ve heard from ButterBallBubba. Why, BBB? Why set yourself up with such an unfortunate screen name? And no photo, so I’m left with a mental image of a frozen turkey.
I mentioned before that I put an ad up at the free online dating service Plenty of Fish. I didn’t get very many hits, which is an ego blow, but I did get asked out on one date.
“Jim” wanted to take me out to lunch last weekend, but I had previous plans and asked to postpone to the following weekend. Monday morning I got an email from him saying that he met someone special over the weekend and that he was removing his profile from the start. He asked me out on Thursday and by Monday he was in a committed relationship with another person.
I had this sort of I-dodged-a-bullet sort of feeling when I read that. I’m not interested in jumping into another serious relationship. I’ve always been either single or committed and for the first time in my life, I’m really intersted in just DATING. I’d like to meet a nice man, go out for a pleasant evening. I don’t want to deal with relationship stress. I want to enjoy casual relationship fun.
I put a new ad up at Singlesnet.com and boy did I get a big response there. Lots of older guys, whom I am really not interested in meeting, but some nice guys my own age, too. If you are single, put a profile up there and you’ll see what I mean.
I met “K,” a nice guy who lives in a town about 20 minutes away. We texted for a bit throughout the week. We met for dinner last night and had a good time. I thought he was cute. I’d like to go out with him again, but I am not going to stress about it.
This is the time when I’d usually start analyzing every exchange and wondering what happens next. Maybe I’ll see him again, maybe I won’t. I’m going to keep my options and my eyes open.
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OKCupid, the free online dating service, has some quick advice for online daters…..
*When you find someone who catches your interest and you are attempting to make that intial contact, keep your message short and sweet.
*When messaging, “be specific” and touch on something you found of interest in your possible date’s profile. For example, if he talks about hiking, mention your favorite trail.
*Speak (or type) like a grownup and spell words completely. Leave the netspeak to “ur” kids.
*Don’t dwell on the outside, no matter how “hot” you find him/her. Be respectful and modest.
*Religion is personal so keep it to yourself until you are face to face with your date.
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I put a online personal ad at a free dating site. I’m not ready to commit to anything, so free seemed good at the time. I’m rereading Cherie’s bookon online dating and I know my intro needs work as I did exactly what she said not to do – I led with my job.
Even so, I got a few responses from guys who have no pictures up (why do they do that?) and I’ve be favorited by two men.
One of them is cute, a little on the short side, but cute. I wonder why he did not go ahead and send me, a “Hey,” “Hello,” or “Wazzup?” Okay, I’d skip the “wazzup,” but I’d respond to anything else.
What’s up with the favorite-ing?? It’s sort of odd and creepy and vaguely stalker-ish. I want to save your photo to look at, but I have no interestin actually communicating with you. Is he coming back later? Maybe working on that “hey” message?
Where do you stand on the favorite-ing? Am I the only one who finds it odd?
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